by Sarah Sloane

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I usually read those linkbait-y blog posts that promise ten life hacks, or twenty ways to cut down the clutter in your house…I suspect I’m hoping that they may actually prove fruitful, but most often it’s a rehash of what I already know.

Years ago, these posts prompted me to start thinking about our sexual self-esteem — how we feel about ourselves, sexually — and how little that we talk about the underlying structure of sexual wellness.

Cosmo (and tons of other sex help resources) shout out that ‘here, now, are five amazing ways to please your lover! and keep them faithful to you!’ and all sorts of other bullshit — and none of that helps us to have better self-esteem (though some of the tips are occasionally pretty fun to try out!). …

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Have you ever gone down the rabbit hole looking for some bling for your thing?

The other day I was aimlessly perusing the internet only to find myself at the bottom of a sex toy rabbit hole and boy let me tell you- that bad boy is VAST! Although most of it included your typical vibrators and dildos, I did stumble upon some nifty creations and it got me thinking. There are LOADS of toys out there — many of them innovative & necessary — that most people may not know about. …

By Maile

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My absolute FAVORITE holiday is upon us. Yes, I, the #open team’s peppiest member, have a dark sense of humor and generally delight in all things spook & macabre. So when my first-ever full swap experience turned a bit frightful, I knew I had to save this odd story for October.

A Saturday Night Swap

It was a hot summer night, and somehow, the stars aligned to allow myself and Adam (the hub) a Saturday evening with no kids. I had to take advantage and plan something fun. Since I’d recently started dating my now-boyfriend, Pip* and Adam was getting to know Pip’s partner, Quinn* — it seemed like a perfect night for a double date. …

By #open team

During our recent Swinging 101 workshop, a number of our #open community members asked for a list of swing club recommendations — so we’ve created one!

One caveat — we’d like to acknowledge that the clubs listed below are crowd-sourced recommendations, and so they’re based on individual experiences. Swinging has been historically heteronormative. While it’s progressed in the past few decades, we recommend that those of you who identify as queer or bisexual (especially bisexual men) seek out clubs that openly support LGBTQIA+ patrons. …

by Maile

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Hello #open friends. It’s Maile, #open’s Director of Product and designated dating adventurist. I’m back with another COVID-approved date idea to keep things wild and fun.

If you’ve been looking for a way to get outside and also get in some seriously silly snuggles- goat yoga might just be your zen. I had a chance to try it out with my new boo, and I’m excited to tell you all about it.

Not a Baaaaaa-d Idea

Did I get your goat with that mention of a new boo? Yes — I have a new honey! We’re still in the fun NRE phase, and having someone with a similar sense of curiosity has been a delight for planning dates. …

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So you and your partner have recently decided to open up your relationship. Great! You start by heading to the interwebs for information, and as expected, you’re overwhelmed with the information surrounding the nuances of Ethical Non-Monogamy. That’s okay — you’re not alone! While we might not have the word limit or time to tell you EVERYTHING you need to know about ENM (it would take days), we’re here to breakdown the facts and fictions of one very popular practice — swinging!

So let’s start with the facts!

Swinging falls under the umbrella term “Non-Monogamy” and is the practice of playing with others with your partner or while your partner is present — usually on a regular basis.


If you and your partner agree to date/play completely separately, swinging may not be the best term to describe your situation — and that’s okay! …

By Maile

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Happy Anal August!

Last week I had a chance to chat with femme domme and doula, Goddess Erica, and it inspired me to reflect on the ways that my background as a birth doula can apply to my work and exploration of sexuality and kink.

With anal play being the topic of the month, one principle that I learned in doula training and have personally navigated during birth, is the concept of Sphincter Law. I began thinking about how the ideas and suggestions that women use during labor can be applied to the sensations and experiences of anal play... …

July 2020

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The team at #open is constantly blown away by the array of diverse humans that are swiping, connecting, and dating in-app. We want to share more about our vibrant community, so we’re continuing our Faces of #open campaign. We’re excited to show and tell a little more about the #open-minded users in our dating community.

We took some time to chat with #open members Katie, Ursus, Triss and Arielle about kinks, the types of connections they’re seeking on #open, plus some fun facts you won’t find on their public profiles!

Meet Katie (she/her) | Username: femmekatie

By Maile

As someone obsessed with dating, connecting, and meeting new people, I hit a slump over the past few weeks.

The novelty of cyber dating wore down as I struggled to maintain chemistry and balance wonky schedules. For a while, dating felt like another ball that I was trying to juggle in my new COVID routine; so I paused for a bit.

As things continue to open up and I watch the latest COVID numbers in my state, I’m starting to slowly and carefully navigate limited IRL dating. …

June 2020

#open wouldn’t be a community without the incredible people who make up our 55,000 member userbase! The team at #open is constantly blown away by the array of diverse humans that are swiping, connecting, and dating in-app. We want to share more about our vibrant community, so we’ve launched our new Faces of #open campaign. We’re excited to show and tell a little more about the #open-minded users in our dating community.

This month we caught up with #open users, Chris (@Starchilde), Elyse (@attilathehoney), Blue (@BlueinSF) and Tatyannah to chat about their experiences on #open, what they’re looking for and of course, some of their favorite hashtags to search for in-app. …


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